13 Oct The Problem with TOO Much Help
I have had many students who fight the chance to become independent because they would rather be needy…worse I have parents who back that neediness up and insist that a para educator be glued by the child's side all day long, walking them everywhere and doing everything for them.
Where this backfires is WHEN the child finally wants to do something, or go somewhere, or apply for a scholarship or an award, they cannot prove to anyone that they can do anything by themselves because they never have. They have never gained any independent skills to even walk from point A to point B in the easiest of locations, let allow to a bus stop or in an airport. They cannot hang up their own backpack or type on a computer nor do their work by themselves. Moreover, the family refuses to let them try because they know they have no skills.
As we encourage children to reach their potential and have them do things for themselves, it will not backfire.
Teaching the children to be assests, instead of deficits, opens up the opportunities.
It takes years to gain those independent skills and the earlier you get started the more opportunity and doors will be opened for you.<< Previous Post Next Post >>